Wherever You Go, There You Are
Wherever you go, there you are
Ever noticed that there's no running away from anything?
If you refuse to deal with it and try to run away, eventually it catches you up. This is especially true with old patterns and fears.
The grass is not greener somewhere else!
Changing location, job, lover etc and have a new beginning a fresh start .... when all too often the troubles you feel aren't because of external factors.
Because, let’s face it, it’s so much easier to blame, accuse or believe that what’s needed is a change on the outside, in an attempt to escape from the forces that are holding you back, stopping you growing and from finding happiness. Or, worse still, you blame yourself and try to run away from it all, feeling that “it’s all a big mess.” Either way the belief that prevails is not conducive to creating a change and resolving the problem(s).
Sometimes those people that are running away, lurch from one technique to another, one tradition to another, one teacher to another. It’s as if they are looking for a magic wand, a special something, a special teaching or a special relationship – something that will give them that “high” in an attempt to be fixed or liberated from their issues.
And this can turn into acute delusion and a never ending quest to escape looking at what is really going on, probably because, truth be known, it’s too painful to consider. And because of fear and a misappropriated desire for someone special to have help them see the light, people create unhealthy, dependent (sometimes romantic) relationships with their teacher. And it doesn’t matter how great the teacher, ultimately you have to do the inner work for yourself.
Yet, people will misuse trainings and retreats as a buoyancy aid to keep them afloat in life, rather than engaging and participating in such a way as to delve into looking deeply at themselves. In a way, retreats can make things a bit too easy. The necessities of life are taken care of, the surroundings are pretty or exotic. The world suddenly seems to make sense. You are being cooked good food and being looked after by kind, caring staff.
And the danger is that the retreat becomes an escape ( a retreat) from one’s own life......life in the real world. So the proclaimed transformation is only skin deep and when one returns to the same old routine, the lack of clarity in relationships etc etc then the search is on for the next retreat. Or the next amazing teacher, or a trek to the Amazon, or some other fantasy in which things suddenly become clearer and you are healed.
There is no successful escaping from yourself in the long run.
As a side note, retreats can be a great place to do inner work and a valuable space for healing and resolution to take place BUT only if one is willing to look at everything that comes up during retreat.
Where you are, right now, where you find yourself, right now, this is where the real works need to happen – and make sure that you have done everything in your power to use your energy to change yourself before you decide to cut your losses and move on.
You need to look within.
Heal yourself......right where you are.
Start by looking within.
Maybe start with this meditation .... CLICK HERE